How to Start a Conversation with a Boy and Not Seem Flirty

Life Rule: Remove the word “Awkward” from your dictionary. It will get you far ahead in your life. However, if you want to do that, just ask for help on something. Good looks always attract boys, but what attracts more is 'you' as a person. If you go along initiating a conversation with him, you will not feel awkward. It’s just the bad mindsets of people.

Stop thinking what others will think of you. If you start thinking that, then these others will have nothing to think. Take control of your life and let no one think anything else than what you think of yourself.

Breaking the Shyness Barrier

Being shy and awkward is absolutely normal when talking to the opposite gender…. Make yourself comfortable, and let me tell you, you will be comfortable only when he tries to make you comfortable… so don't beg hard for starting a conversation. Talk a little daily. If he's comfortable, you will be too.

Effective Conversation Starters

First and foremost, do note that some boys are absolute snobs, but don't let that deter you. Remember that to start a conversation means you are doing the 'inquiring' and not the imposition of ideas. When you approach the boy, ask questions like 'I've noted that you... why'. E.g., 'I noted that you are always by yourself, why...'? Or 'I've noted that you don't like talking, why?'

Usefulness Instead of Sex Appeal

What is it that boys loooove? You might say sex, and you would be partially correct. However, even better is to be useful. It is highly addictive; our brain is wired to pop as soon as we feel that we contributed. Guys kill themselves if there is nothing to do, no problem to solve, and nothing they can add.

So, ask for help. Ask for some solution to something, or ask if he understands a particular topic better and is willing to explain it in words that you can understand. Or ask help with what place/restaurant/clothing item is better and why.

Now, if you ask something, magic happens. He has probably been worried sick about what to say if you just say hi… because what if he says something stupid or says something you don't like. Soon he will be crying like a castrated goat. And if you ask something, he is likely to know then suddenly you have a topic to converse about.

And it has a built-in repeat. You can only say hi once. Or even more stupid: 'what a nice trimmers…' but tomorrow you can go again and ask for similar stuff. Or tell that it really helped and ask if you properly understood whatever he explained.

Best of luck with all your conversations and interactions, and remember: confidence and authenticity pave the way to success in any social setting.